7 Things NOT to Do When Speaking English

7-Things-Not-to-Do I’ve spent the last few years traveling and living abroad, and during that time I’ve talked to a lot of people who spoke English as a foreign language.

After talking to thousands of foreigners in English I’ve noticed several things that they do that hurt their progress as a language learner.

You’re going to really surprised by a few of these for sure.

Here are the top 7:

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1. Don’t Be too Ashamed to Speak

There is only one way to learn how to speak English, and that is to open your mouth and speak English! The only way you will ever get better at speaking is by speaking, and speaking a lot!

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.

– Mark Twain

You can make excuses for why you don’t want to speak, like saying that you’re too embarrassed to speak, but these won’t get you any closer to your goal of achieving English fluency. It doesn’t matter if you have no vocabulary, or if your pronunciation isn’t perfect, you need to open your mouth and speak if you want to improve.

Whatever you do, don’t say that you can’t speak English because this will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. By believing that you can’t speak English you close your mind to trying, and never give yourself the opportunity to improve. The only way to improve your English is to practice it, no matter how bad you may or may not be at it.

2. Don’t Be Afraid of Making Mistakes

Another thing you shouldn’t do when speaking English is to be afraid of making mistakes. Part of being human is making mistakes and sooner or later you’re going to have to accept the fact that you’re not perfect and that you will always make mistakes. The only way you can avoid making mistakes is by not trying at all. If you follow this approach you’ll avoid making mistakes, but you’ll never improve either.

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

– Michael Jordan

This may seem counter-intuitive, but you should try making as many mistakes as possible. If you are making mistakes that means you are actually speaking English and improving. If you aren’t making mistakes every day then you aren’t speaking enough. Of course, you shouldn’t intentionally make mistakes, and you should try to be aware of your mistakes so you can learn from them and improve your skills.

Grammar is the last thing you should be worried about when speaking English. You don’t need to have perfect grammar in order to communicate with someone in English. Native speakers aren’t going to judge you for having bad grammar, they are going to be more focused on understanding your meaning and continuing the conversation.

As long as you speak clearly and confidently, it doesn’t matter if you use the wrong article, adjective ending or sentence order.

Many language programs put too much emphasis on grammar and not enough emphasis on speaking. They spread the idea that you have to know all the grammar rules before you can start speaking, which can have the effect of reducing your confidence when you finally start speaking. This is backwards. You should learn to speak first to build your confidence, and then work on correcting your grammar after you’ve reached a basic level of fluency.

Everybody makes mistakes, even native speakers of English. Nobody is born speaking perfect English; fluency is something that takes time and hard work to achieve. There are many Americans who go through 13 years of schooling and still don’t learn how to speak English properly.

So don’t be discouraged by your mistakes. Learn to embrace them and value them for the role they play in your learning.

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3. Don’t Apologize For Your Level

Something that really annoys me when I’m talking to someone in English is when they apologize for how much English they speak. I’ve never been offended by someone’s level of English, and I don’t get upset when someone makes mistakes. If you talk to someone and they do get offended or upset because of your level of English they are an evil person who probably tortures kittens in their spare time.

Most of the people who apologize for their level of English feel like they should speak better than they do. Its fine to think this, but don’t get upset at yourself for not knowing more than you do. Achieving fluency in any language is a process that takes time, and you can’t expect to become fluent overnight. Whether you’ve been studying English for years or only for a few months, you’ve put in a lot of work to get where you are, so don’t underestimate yourself.

4. Don’t get frustrated with yourself

Learning English will come with a certain amount of frustration. At some point you will come to a stage where you won’t be able to fully express yourself like you would be able to in your native language, and there will be times when you won’t be able to find the right word to say.

Nearly everyone who learns English goes through this phase; it’s just a natural part of the language learning process. This stage may last only a few weeks if you are completely immersed in English, but it could last years if you only use English twice a week at your language school. The only way to overcome this frustration is by practice, practice, practice.

Keep in mind that this frustration isn’t because you’re not smart enough, or because the language is too difficult, it is something that many people have to go through. By embracing this frustration and feeling it more intensely through increased exposure you can pass through this stage more rapidly.

5. Don’t take it personally when people don’t understand you

Native "I can't understand you"At some point in your English speaking career you are going to speak to someone who, no matter how hard you try just cant seem to understand you. Due to the large number of English speakers in the world, there are a wide range of accents, some of which are hard to understand. I for one have a hard time understanding some Australian accents and most Irish accents.

You’ll have this problem a lot when talking with people who aren’t used to dealing with foreigners. If they don’t have this experience they will be used to hearing English spoken in a very specific way, and they won’t have any frame of reference when talking to you. Realize that this isn’t a reflection of your language skills, but rather a reflection of this person’s lack of exposure to different people.

This can also happen when talking to English learners who have a lower level of English than you. They won’t be able to understand everything you say because of your more advanced vocabulary. Try to remember that you were once at their level and not everyone is at the same place on their language journey.

The same person who gets offended when you speak English also tortures kittens like these.

6. Don’t compare yourself to other English Speakers

No matter what level your English is at, you had to work hard to bring yourself to that level. Be proud of what you’ve accomplished and don’t be too concerned with what other people think about it. They don’t know how many hours you’ve had to work to get to where you are, they don’t know all the struggles you’ve been through to get there.

This also means you shouldn’t go around comparing yourself to other people. Everybody is different; some people learn languages more easily than others and some people have spent more time working to improve their English. Just because your friend who lived in London for 3 years can speak really well doesn’t mean that you’re not on the right path.

Some people like to see others fail, and by paying any attention to these people you are just feeding their negativity. Any time you spend worrying about what they think of you is time wasted that could be better spent by working to improve your English.

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7. If you are fluent, or just think you are, Don’t Get Cocky (arrogant)

“Life (English) is a Journey Not a Destination.”

English is not a chip in your brain. It’s a learning process. Maybe this is gonna seem harsh, and definitely a bit paradoxical, but for the rare English Jedi breed, they realize that there’s never really perfect fluency, only the impassioned and ever-approaching journey toward it.

This means that when you finally become fluent, (whatever that really means to you or to the world), you shouldn’t adopt the attitude of somebody who thinks “I already learned English” because there are some fundamental problems and limitations that come from this assumption. Here are just a few:

  • You’re living a lie because you never stop learning a language. It is like calling yourself a fully-realized human being.  There’s always the next level up, and the current level always needs practice.
  • The learner tends to get lazy, and it’s a universal fact about any learning process, that if you aren’t growing, you are probably getting worse.
  • The inflated ego prevents you from recognizing the final 5 or 10% that separates you from the master jedi breed of English speakers.
  • There is a tendency to treat other English learners (or people who are learning their language) in a condescending, totally idiotic way, forgetting what it is like to learn because they themselves are no longer connected to their own learning process.
  • Cultural Understanding: You can know everything about grammar, but that doesn’t mean you are fluent. You need to be constantly connected to the source of the language (culture) so that it flows from who you really are.

So there you have it, 7 things not to do when speaking English. Now that you know what not to do, go out there and speak English!

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297 Comments

  1. Brice on April 23, 2012 at 9:51 pm

    I could use all of these in my process of learning Spanish. Just replace “English” with “Spanish” in every instance.

  2. Nathan Youngblut on April 24, 2012 at 12:09 am

    Yes, I agree with the previous comment, these seem universal to the learning of all languages. Keep up the good work, Josh! 🙂

  3. Craig Cudworth on April 24, 2012 at 1:03 am

    A very well written piece Josh. Everyone can learn from it teachers and students I would just add one thing that I like to pass on to my students and that the things we REALLY want to do in life well we will master.Things we attempt without the will power we will give up on. I have lived in two foreign countries and I really feel it is fundamental to learn the language of the country you choose to live in otherwise go back home!

  4. Karin Keerdo-Massa on April 24, 2012 at 5:38 am

    and what do you do if you are making an effort with a language you don't really speak, and the native speakers make an elaborated show of how impossible your pronounciation is, and how sub-human you really are for not being able to speak their language. Out of interest, let's take a poll – can anyone guess which language (and nation) I might be referring to? (no idea about their relationship with kittens).

  5. Justin Murray on April 24, 2012 at 11:22 am

    That sucks, Karen. I guess some people are insensitive to language learners in any country. It´s happened to the best of us. If it was my country (USA) you are referring to, I apologize on behalf of my people and their ignorance. But whatever country it was, I hope you won´t make the mistake about of generalizing about an entire population of people. Good luck on your English learning quest!

    • Karin Keerdo-Massa on April 24, 2012 at 11:56 am

      aww, thank you Justin, no need to apologise. Besides, as I was referring 'to a language I don't really speak', I certainly hope the logical conclusion would not be English! (I was referring to France, actually, and happilly generalising with a grand sweep :P).

    • Justin Murray on April 24, 2012 at 8:20 pm

      Karin Keerdo-Massa Thanks for the response.. yeah i saw that you speak English well but everybody starts somewhere. And did you eventually learn French and silence the naysayers?

  6. Danielle Rioga on April 26, 2012 at 8:21 pm

    Josh Plotkin and Justin Murray very good job! You put the words in the right spot to talk about the learning process. I like to say to my students that when you study a language you are the one who chooses where you want to get to. There are no limits, we never stop learning and studying. What changes from one person to another is how much effort you put on practicing it.

  7. Luciane Kö?lü on August 27, 2012 at 8:00 am

    thnks for writting something like this! I live on abroad (Turkey) and I use english to communicate with other foreigner and once I met a stupid old lady english native speaker. She asked "how can your husband understand your english?" I really hold myself to not answer something really unpolite… Regards! Luci from Brazil.

  8. Helen Lagares on October 14, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    Good!

  9. Alisson Chagas on November 25, 2012 at 11:28 am

    really interesting…

    • Justin on November 30, 2012 at 4:51 pm

      Thanks for the comment, Alisson. We hope to hear more from you! Take care!

  10. Jorge Luis Laiuppa on December 2, 2012 at 7:08 am

    Very useful tips, some of them taught to my own students.

  11. Jabed Ahmed on December 4, 2012 at 6:21 pm

    Useful articles……

  12. Débora Pereira on December 11, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    "If you talk to someone and they do get offended or upset because of your level of English they are an evil person who probably tortures kittens in their spare time."
    I'm laughing a lot.

  13. marcos on January 14, 2013 at 12:20 am

    nice advices , nice words , i’ve been enjying to use this blog a lot ,tks I love to read ur posts in english ,

  14. Le Hong on January 26, 2013 at 7:43 am

    Thank so much for your useful advice!

  15. WISSAME on January 26, 2013 at 2:33 pm

    Hello it’s a very useful article it will help me to improve my english
    the problem is that i found difficulet in wrting

  16. Judith on February 7, 2013 at 6:05 am

    Very Helpful Thanks you very much

    • Justin on February 18, 2013 at 8:31 pm

      Thank YOU!

  17. Aisha Khairunnisa on February 13, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    wow, it is wonderful, I will try n try again speaking english! n learn it more n more!

  18. Rockky Buddhachotsirikul on March 1, 2013 at 7:24 am

    🙂 good article…

  19. Jenny on March 26, 2013 at 7:18 am

    Great post! I like the pics 🙂
    I’d conclude that speaking a foreign language well is also a matter of confidence. Without it, it’s exceptionally difficult to progress.

  20. VeraV. on March 27, 2013 at 9:22 pm

    Hi Josh and Justin! My humblest thank you for this article! I’ve just spent several hours trying to cram a pretty intense set of English vocabulary into my head and ended up having tears in my eyes from the sheer feeling of frustration and helplessness (in other words, went through something you wrote about on the part 4 of your text). Feeling very silly, and through various more or less desperate Google searches, like “english shit”, “inferiority complex and english”, and “i will never learn perfect english” (feel free to laugh… I did, through my tears), I finally found my way here and ta-dah! I am feeling so much better now. So, thank you. Definitely adding this to my favourites! And seriously contemplating on leaving the grammar aside for a moment and focusing on finding some forum to actually USE my English in.

    Keep up the good work! 🙂

    (I had some serious last minute urge to go and check my spelling from the nearest dictionary but no, won’t do that… 🙂 )

    • Justin on March 28, 2013 at 9:49 pm

      Vera, I LOVED your message. We really appreciate it and it makes us happy to know that our writing is helping people like you. It’s exactly why we’re doing it. Join our internationally Facebook community here http://www.facebook.com/groups/reallifeenglish/ and you can practice there! We’re planning on doing some google hangouts in about a month. Where do you live? Thanks again!
      -Justin

  21. Fernanda Antunes Figueiredo on March 31, 2013 at 11:15 pm

    Thank you very much for this site. It's wonderful. congratulations!

  22. Allan on April 5, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    Useful article. I’ve learnt a lot with Real Life English

  23. Vessel Kastrati on April 9, 2013 at 4:59 am

    I like this web page immensely/ but I never dare say that I teach students some of these tips because they are dedicated for self study and comments and not like school teaching programs..in the school we have ours planned by the Ministry of Education not us to mix ideas.

  24. Elmer Merino Cueva on April 12, 2013 at 2:52 am

    it's one of these things that makes me happy to learn and how to get more confidence in my way to lear English.

    • Justin on April 15, 2013 at 3:47 pm

      That’s awesome Elmer. It sounds like you’re on your way!

  25. Carlos on April 17, 2013 at 9:58 pm

    I’d like to have more time to read these tips e these useful comments.

  26. Servinaz K?nac? on May 5, 2013 at 8:36 am

    Thank you very much for your knowledge about speaking English. It's very useful.

  27. jamal on May 13, 2013 at 1:40 pm

    I am a teacher of English in one of the Egyptian public schools. My students’age is between 16 and 17 years old. I’ve been teaching English for about 20 years now. I’ve been always telling my students not blush or sweat when they speak English, in other words not to be shy of making mistakes but you know teaching english in Egypt isn’t going well. No teacher trainings, no school phonetic labs, no cassettes, etc. We as teachers , surely not all teachers, are struggling to teach our students.

    • Justin on May 15, 2013 at 2:15 pm

      Hey Jamal, Great to hear from you. It sounds like you’re doing a good job in a difficult situation. I hope you get more support, but in the meantime, keep your head up. Thanks for the comment.

  28. Gabriele De Rosa on May 16, 2013 at 5:59 pm

    I read the report, it was very nice! I've been studying English for two years but I studied it when I was at school a lot of years ago! My English teacher always says me the same thing, grammar is important but speaking is more important. It's true! English learners should speak a lot and after they'll be able to study grammar better! Please add me on fb, we could improve our skills English about writing and speaking!

  29. Manar on May 30, 2013 at 9:04 am

    Hi,

    Actullay, the report was so an amazing .. this first time I read somthing long in english !
    Actullay, I am suprise from my self. Loool ..

    Some times when someone put qusetion espically in grammar .. when I try to answer I be chary .. I afraid to make mistake :”( .. After this report , I will try particpate and I will be proude when I make mistake :pP

    Finally, thank you so much : )

  30. Elisabete Da Silva Silva on June 4, 2013 at 10:47 pm

    The best site to learn English that I found and really love, thanks for the gift, guys.

  31. Alexandra on June 7, 2013 at 8:55 am

    Hi Josh and Justin,

    I’m very soon sitting the cambridge exam and i must say this article saved me from collapsing as I was pretty much doubting about my english skills. But here I am now, totally cheered up and relieved by your words. So thanks a lot guys ! I believe there should be more people, like you, telling about the positive sides of learning languages as well as of, quite simply, ‘living’ !

    Keep it up !
    Greetings from France 🙂

  32. Martha on June 12, 2013 at 6:31 pm

    OMG! I loved you! You are a such a great writter and also a motivator! You really made me to want to be better in english! thank you so much!

  33. Noon M. Y. Dakeen on July 4, 2013 at 10:29 pm

    good to know

  34. Miriam Oliver on July 5, 2013 at 6:51 pm

    Thank you very much! I agree with you. The process of learning is a very long one, so we don´t have to feel frustrated with our mistakes.Errors and mistakes are part of the process.

  35. Fernando Negrini on July 8, 2013 at 11:30 pm

    Well done fellow countryman!

  36. Jorge Godinez on July 13, 2013 at 1:51 am

    Hahah you tried to correct her mistake, well you are wrong too,
    the correct way to say this sentence is ( My english teacher used to tell me) or my english teacher used to say to me…..

    i think that if you are going through life correcting people's mistakes then you should correct yourself before you do so

  37. sara on July 17, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    Its so hard for a non-native speaker to speak another language and it takes a lot of energy.I try to use correct words and sentences but i have to think too much.I like English.Its a beautiful language.Most of the things that you say is right.For example im so afraid to make mistake and i become so embarrassment and finally it takes half an hour i write it.

    • Justin on July 22, 2013 at 6:04 pm

      Hey Sara, Thanks for leaving a nice comment. It seems like you’re working hard and doing great with your English learning. Keep up the good work and be courageous because it will take you places. Take care.

  38. Polina Brykina on July 18, 2013 at 1:42 pm

    Randy Guerrero Villa , especially for you, point No.7. of this article.

  39. Natty Chikumba on July 30, 2013 at 10:42 am

    I am relieved….. Before reading this article, I was literally on silent mode. I think I can now stomach the embarrasment that is associated with speaking broken english.

  40. neha sharma on July 31, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    hello there,
    I am so happy to read this article and overwhelmed by your way of tips and suggestions.
    so am from india and striving towards atleast 10% of fluency so that I can save other country English speaking ppl from my English. because my profession is to move around (English countries) like aussie,america,london…am often confused by the accents mostly by the Australian accents. I really like the native American speakers coz they are really friendly and helping nature is more.
    finally thanks for the positive way of narrating this article.
    It’s really awesome..
    I got one question plz answer….am waiting for your reply.
    does learning grammar perfectly makes English learning easier and faster??
    please answer to my question
    bye.

    • Trevor on October 16, 2013 at 11:17 am

      I would recommend focusing on understanding people and them understanding you. Grammar is not so important (at first) as long as people can understand you.

  41. Anna Cordeschi on August 1, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    soooo true!

  42. Micia Purrvis on August 1, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    Very good advice.

  43. Ann Turner on August 2, 2013 at 12:13 am

    Agree. And it applies to any language you're trying to learn.

  44. Nancy Betancourt on August 6, 2013 at 2:57 am

    Love the work you do guys! It is funny and enjoyable. I love how you all encourage people to be confident of themselve when learning a new language specifically English.

  45. Joe on August 7, 2013 at 6:16 am

    Great topics… Very very useful. Really I think the most difficult thing to fight with when you want to speak is the fear… Obviously this is my opinion. It’s true, we can solve this problem speaking a lot but, how this? For example I’m Italian and, fortunately, I have some friends who are native speaker and I can talk with them. If not, in what way could I speak in English? We need a web-service that offer us the opportunity to speak in English with someone, better if he or she is native speaker…

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:43 pm

      It’s true, but speaking on a regular basis with both natives and non-natives will help you. Check out this article I wrote on how to conquer fear–http://reallifebh.com/conquerfear

  46. C. Alves on August 8, 2013 at 11:49 pm

    Great article! It’s very encouraging. Thanks guys.

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:40 pm

      Thanks for reading!

  47. Salim Saifi on August 10, 2013 at 6:52 am

    "just open your mouth and speak"… Really? lol

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:39 pm

      That’s the best way to start! Thanks for supporting.

  48. Hoang-63 on August 11, 2013 at 12:34 am

    I’ve learnt a new lesson, very interesting lesson,very useful advise.
    Thanks,
    Hoang_63

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:36 pm

      I’m glad it was helpful. Thanks for commenting.

  49. Sally Al-Habshi on August 11, 2013 at 6:08 am

    Nation Chikumba you speak better English than me!

  50. Ariane Saplagio on August 12, 2013 at 10:03 am

    hahhahhaha being fluent in english is not important, as long as they understand and got the point of what you are saying, its enought i think

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:26 pm

      That’s a good start at least. Fluency comes with practice and consistent hard work. We might as well open our mouths along the way and speed up the process. Thanks for the comment.

  51. Sharmila Pandian on August 12, 2013 at 10:50 am

    Add me as a friend

  52. Suraj Parmar on August 14, 2013 at 12:23 pm

    hello my name is suraj from India. I have been learning English since two years. I read your article it was good for those who are learning English. I also would do this mistakes which u mentioned above but after reading this article I felt I had been making mistakes for a long time but now it's time to improve…with your direction. so thank you a lot….

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:23 pm

      Hey Suraj, great to hear from you. I’m glad the article was helpful. It’s always time to improve and we all need a little direction. Thank you for leaving a comment and we hope to hear more from you. Do you know the RLE International Facebook Community? Check it out! https://www.facebook.com/groups/reallifeenglish/

  53. Arminder Singh on August 14, 2013 at 5:40 pm

    Iit applies to any language you're trying to learn…….its very helpful for all

    • Justin on August 14, 2013 at 7:22 pm

      You’re absolutely right. This comes from our language learning (Spanish and Portuguese). Thanks for the comment!

  54. Siena Alshadady on August 17, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    nice!

  55. Sreekanth Mohan on August 23, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    yes…. truly this is a nice article… completely motivating… inspiring and information giving…..

  56. Khalid Khan on August 24, 2013 at 3:47 pm

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  57. Mara Rubia Roza Burger on August 27, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    Fantastic, and I would add: don't try to correct anyone unless you are required to.

  58. Si Fe on August 28, 2013 at 12:59 am

    Awesome! These are things that I always say to friends… Speak up!!! Don't be afraid! Even native speakers make mistake. Nobody was born knowing everything. So, just do it!!!

  59. Leandro Ferreira on September 3, 2013 at 10:46 pm

    Randy Guerrero Villa chupa

  60. George Barron on September 16, 2013 at 11:40 pm

    i like this topic is very important for me, recently i had the experience when some one told me my mistake in bad form. this persone is not a good example …

  61. Ana Laura Nava Flores on September 17, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    hola jorge te mande una solicitud de amistad , soy ana laura la chica de la cafeteria de pensilvania tiene un buen k no se de ti me gustaria volver a saber de ti por fa aceptala

  62. devy loryana on September 20, 2013 at 10:00 am

    well, motivating and inspiring. I’ll tell to my students tomorrow, thank you.

  63. Jack Chen on October 6, 2013 at 2:17 am

    I am learning oral english,but i agree with all your points in artical,I am from China,our teacher teaches grammar first,and then speaking,i think it’s wrong now.

  64. Nana Chosun on October 6, 2013 at 6:51 am

    It's nice to read and it's like what I've done to my students. They used to be ashamed to practice Speaking, having afraid of mistakes, used to say that they couldn't speak but I always encouraged them to speak and I would appreciate them when they had bravery to do it. Now without being asked by the teacher they often practice speaking without being afraid and ashamed anymore

  65. Helena Alonso Rodrigo on October 6, 2013 at 9:36 am

    as we say in Spain, you have more reason than a saint. Thank you very much

  66. Fernando Echeverry on October 6, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    Excellent.

  67. Ramadan's Cooking 2013 on October 6, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    I'm seeing my self in this whole article : a shy person who can't even express her self ,just i feel like i m dying inside just because i didn't spit the words out ,every time that i try that fear of making mistakes shows .this article gave me a trust on my self and i think i can do it …i believe that I can Do It 😀 . Thank u for this brilliant Article (y)

  68. Ramadan's Cooking 2013 on October 6, 2013 at 9:12 pm

    I'm seeing my self in this whole article : a shy person who can't even express her self ,just i feel like i m dying inside just because i didn't spit the words out ,every time that i try that fear of making mistakes shows .this article gave me a trust on my self and i think i can do it …i believe that I can Do It 😀 . Thank u for this brilliant Article (y)

  69. AUSAN on October 6, 2013 at 8:01 pm

    There are so many things that we really do, and that will encourage us and friends to speak and express what we feel freely, that’s the best way to start!

  70. Ausan Alhubaishi on October 6, 2013 at 11:06 pm

    THE MORE WE SHY, THE LESS WE SPEAK, AND IT IS TIME TO START

  71. ??? ???? on October 7, 2013 at 2:54 am

    it is great, most of us compare him/her self with those who are fluent.

  72. Mario Cortes on October 7, 2013 at 5:55 am

    Everyone who is an expert was once an amateur. We all start from zero. As you start speaking, not only are you able to think faster of the words, but…(and here is where it gets exciting) you will start thinking in English. This will accelerate your learning.

  73. Adrián Ovalle Camarillo on October 7, 2013 at 4:02 pm

    Hola Ana Laura ¿cuándo nos vemos? yo sí me acuerdo mucho de ti y yo no tengo que andarme escondiendo…..

  74. Zulmira Andrade Rabelo on October 7, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    Nana Chosun, I really have to believe in it, sometimes we haven't spoken to avoid making mistakes.

  75. Abid Ali Solangi on October 8, 2013 at 1:27 pm

    Amazing facts…….

  76. Vera Serova on October 16, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    Simple things to follow…..and to improve your language.

    • Justin on October 18, 2013 at 10:40 am

      Very simple! It just demands courage.

  77. Vera Serova on October 16, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    Simple things to follow…..and to improve your language.

  78. Vera Serova on October 16, 2013 at 5:26 pm

    Simple things to follow…..and to improve your language.

  79. Faiza Batool on October 18, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    hmmmm valuable suggestions 🙂

  80. Kang Darman Banten on October 28, 2013 at 11:18 am

    It often happens to indonesian people. Thank for your good tip.

  81. CLAUDIA CANEDO on November 1, 2013 at 7:33 am

    Excellent!!!Fluency comes with practice and consistent hard work –

  82. Sam Basra on November 5, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    i will try my best to follow these rules

  83. Anil on November 13, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    Hello sir , really i am inspired ,Thank you so much .:)

  84. Guy-Bertin NDOUTINGAI on November 14, 2013 at 6:29 am

    Hello! I really appreciate the way you are helping people who want to succeed in Learning English to do better. I’ve just discorvered your website ”reallife”, and i found it wonderful! By putting in pratice your advices i realized that my English is improving very quickly, even though i’m not living in English speaking country. I try to Watch a lot video and listen to every day. I sometimes speak to myself, and i noticed that my accent i really good, i pronounced words perfectly, and i start to understand clearly native speaker without any problem! I can also Watch TV like “CNN Student News” and understand easily. Well, i’d like to thanks very much for what you are doing to helping anyone who want to learn English. The only thing i have to do more actualy is “reading” to acquire new vocabularies. Once again thank you!

  85. Nora on November 20, 2013 at 7:58 am

    Amazing report!! It really boosted up my confidence. Just now I was feeling low because today we had a debate on our class and everyone was asked to prepare a speech. A classmate of mine asked me a question based upon my speech and I just couldn’t answer it, I was just standing there with a blank expression on my face. I knew the answer but couldn’t speak it up thinkin that it was better to keep quiet cause my english isn’t that good. I was really upset seein how my frnds spoke that good english but i couln’t. i really never made any effort to speak english cause i was too embarrased thinkin what would people say if they listen to my english. but this article was really helpful. thank u very much.

  86. ratnesh kashi on December 6, 2013 at 5:39 pm

    it’s amazing article i really like it. i’m learning speak English and it is very helpful for me. thanks a lot.

  87. Rajesh Patel on December 22, 2013 at 3:44 am

    its nice and very courageous article for english speakers who are practicing for speaking in english.In india i have seen many people want to learn and speak english but when people does not speak correctly many people who knows english start laughing thats so annoying for any english learners.

  88. Zulmira Andrade Rabelo on December 24, 2013 at 6:27 pm

    Thank you for this article. I'm a new member of this awesome community and I know i make mistakes. Then this article can encourage me to carry on in my dream. Not giving up because I love english language and one day I'll be better and better….

  89. Ismoara Mou on December 26, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    its really helpful to learners .Thank u…..

  90. Col Mohamad Hassan on December 26, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    Randy Guerrero Villa Gabriele D R, Randy G V – Or he wants to say "My English teacher always says to me …."

  91. Qabbho on January 4, 2014 at 6:03 am

    I know a lot vocabulory but not good when speaking, i can’t use its for my conversation,anyway thanks for this artical , it’s helpful and couraging me. Thank alot

    • Justin on January 6, 2014 at 12:26 pm

      Thanks for reading Qabbho, I’m glad it was helpful! Keep up the good work.

  92. Joebas Miranda Cuadra on January 9, 2014 at 1:33 am

    English teachers should know these. We will have more English speakers if the are not that very conscious of their mistakes. We should go for understanding and meaning. Thank you for posting this article.

  93. Ocean on January 9, 2014 at 12:07 am

    It is great to read this article. It helps me so much and also encourage me so much to improve my English speaking skill. I will follow the advice and I hope that my English will be better in the future. Thanks for posting and sharing experience.

  94. Alizatul Saadah on January 9, 2014 at 5:58 am

    very nice and valuable tips. thank you.

  95. Shamim Safaq Hamid on January 9, 2014 at 3:02 pm

    helpful

  96. Prince Touray on January 9, 2014 at 8:27 pm

    Each age in man’s life is a dream that is coming to end and one coming to birth….. I agree with you and I shall learn for your teachings because example is the school of all mankind and their will learn from no other…. Am so greatful to you…..!!

  97. Aida Pinto Barb on January 9, 2014 at 11:55 pm

    Fantastic!! As an english teacher I've been telling my students these things in this article. Congrats!!

  98. jinny pinaroc on February 1, 2014 at 4:54 am

    makes sense! thanks!

  99. Cecy Corrales on February 6, 2014 at 2:08 pm

    Very nice article, wanna share it with my students!

  100. Santhosh Suriyakumar on February 6, 2014 at 6:44 pm

    its very nice…..and good tips ….

  101. Hanan Sinnawi on February 7, 2014 at 5:41 pm

    It's very helpful article

  102. Paula Viviana on February 8, 2014 at 2:40 am

    Great article! I'll definitely share it with my students.

  103. Chaaben Ayachi on February 9, 2014 at 1:09 am

    Good. Logical rules

  104. Isabel Vaquero on February 9, 2014 at 1:08 pm

    Excellent , I have just printed it and will give it to my students-

  105. Carlos Manzano Pacheco on February 13, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    Zulmira Andrade Rabelo that is right

  106. El- Liez on February 21, 2014 at 9:26 am

    Nice sharing 🙂
    I get stressed when I am speaking to foreigners who come to office and speak to me very fast. And at the time i can't understand them well, i feel bad.. i feel i am not smart and my english is bad. And i am afraid that i'll get fired because of that..

  107. Zulqarnain Haider Bajwa on March 5, 2014 at 2:05 pm

    its realy helpful for every one

  108. Christian Michelle Semlinger on March 7, 2014 at 3:03 pm

    I'm a native English speaker and I love that you posted this article to help those who might be scared to speak. However, I couldn't finish the article due to your discriminatory picture of an out of context picture of an American holding a sign….. Thanks for portraying my country negatively (please sense the sarcasm)

  109. meg on March 8, 2014 at 8:35 am

    i am a native English speaker and found this super helpful! currently attempting to learn German while I live here in Germany and the same applies!My worst of these is not speaking out of fear this reallyencouraged me to just speak and not worry about it!

    • Justin on March 11, 2014 at 7:42 pm

      Hey Meg, Great to hear from you. I’m really glad these tips were useful for you. We actually just did a podcast on this. You should check it out! http://reallifebh.com/podcast_50 Take care, Meg! Thanks for reading and saying hi!

  110. emre on March 13, 2014 at 9:37 pm

    thanks buddy. i hope i can apply all these process when trying to speak English 😉

  111. Guilherme Della Torre on March 14, 2014 at 1:40 am

    That goes specially to people from East Asian countries:
    In YOUR country, use your language first, not every white looking person is a native english speaker, and might feel offended if u assume he is, specially if he speaks your language, and refuse to talk to him.

  112. Krishna Moorthy on March 20, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    nice..very impressive

  113. Krishna Moorthy on March 20, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    nice..very useful

  114. Benjamat Ratt on March 24, 2014 at 4:06 pm

    Thankss I got it!!!!

    • Justin on March 25, 2014 at 2:34 pm

      Thanks for reading!

  115. farzin on March 26, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    thanks a lot for very useful advises

  116. Larissa Duarte on March 28, 2014 at 6:58 pm

    awesome 🙂

  117. Michelle Badua on March 30, 2014 at 6:03 pm

    Wow! This is amazing! I've been learning English ever since I was a child and upon reading this article I knew I've been on the right track from the start.:). I wasn't aware of these tips before but I've been doing them then and now.I love learning and speaking English.I'm not a native English speaker and I'm not an educated person( I've never been into college or university) either but because of my eagerness to learn this language, now I can finally use it just like my own language.I am testifying that these tips really works!For me,English learning is a continuous process.This is my passion:).Sometimes I fail to do #3 especially when I'm talking with native English speakers,but now I will do my best not to do that again.
    This article is really helpful!
    Thank you so much Sir Justin for sharing.Thank you so much Real Life English!:) You're doing a great job!:)

    • Justin on April 1, 2014 at 1:08 pm

      Thanks for reading and commenting, Michelle. I’m glad this was helpful! You are an inspiration!

  118. rabia on April 11, 2014 at 4:23 am

    i completely agree with the article as i have already faced it and thanks for such an amazing article which is really helpful for the beginners…….

  119. Miraflor Flores Avilado on April 26, 2014 at 4:52 am

    Thanks for posting this…I can share this with my friends who are afraid of speaking in English 🙂

  120. Hyde T. Bagadiong on April 26, 2014 at 5:04 am

    pashare din Teacher Mira…. salamuch!

  121. Theeraphon Suwannaratana on May 12, 2014 at 5:17 am

    Thank you very much for that.I did’t know before.I’ll take them to my student.

  122. Theeraphon Suwannaratana on May 12, 2014 at 5:17 am

    Thank you very much for that.I did’t know before.I’ll take them to my student.

  123. Mary Nia on June 4, 2014 at 2:31 pm

    Thank you for all you said! I Am one of those who is blaming myself everydAy!!! Becaues I know alot of words people are using in their daily conversations but I don t remember them while I am speaking!!!! 🙁 I guess you gave me the reason! I put alit of pressure on myself! 🙁

  124. Ignas Pranckevi?ius on June 16, 2014 at 6:53 pm

    I very liked this article, I'm looking for new frends which I can communicate and tranning English language pratice, just improve it. i.pranckevicius@yahoo.com

  125. Gabriella on June 20, 2014 at 7:06 pm

    I’m so happy that I found your website. I’m really trying to find the way to improve the language. Even that you said don’t be afraid is really hard. Sometimes I just get very frustrated at work, my coworkers analyze each word that I said and sometimes make fun of me and I feel horrible. But thank you so much for share this information. I will be positive about all this things and do my best. Thank you again!

    • Justin on June 29, 2014 at 10:29 am

      Thanks for reading, Gabriella! I’m glad it’s useful for you. I know it’s hard, but keep going and you’ll overcome your psychological barriers. Check out this article which relates to this– http://reallifeglobal.com/conquerfear Thanks again for reading!

  126. Ludmila Strelnikova on June 23, 2014 at 3:08 am

    Thank you guys! Your Manifesto helps me understand the big picture to be successful at learning English.

  127. Shampa Thakur on June 24, 2014 at 5:21 am

    Reading is good "Passive" way of improving vocabulary, but when you are resorting to making lists, that is "Active" method. Problem with active method of learning words is that it is cumbersome and boring, and you doing retain and unless you use it in writing sentences to apply the word, very little chance is that you increase your lexical size.
    Improve Your Vocabulary – VocabMonk is an active learning tool which is personalized and makes sure you grasp the learnt words by applying it. It is lot of fun too as you can play vocab challenges with your friends.
    Give it a shot!

  128. Fathi on July 9, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    It is great Paragraphe….It gaves me 10 steps forward, many thanks gental….Libya

  129. Luis Felipe Saldanha on July 9, 2014 at 5:42 pm

    very good advices. Thanks

  130. Gotham on July 16, 2014 at 5:16 pm

    dont understand not know english

  131. Andre on July 21, 2014 at 8:27 pm

    Howdy Josh.

    SUrely you are quite right about your stand-point. I did living up there
    in FLA during 1 year and got real groovy to be on touch to flr folks and
    mostly were kindly to share topics. I regard real cool speak english and
    do talk over 10 year not to mention french,juppy to getting by.

    Like everybofy knows english language is well liked far and wide for a
    dialog of which is named a Business language also.

    All the very best . Andre CTBA

  132. Uwa loveth on July 25, 2014 at 2:27 pm

    Thanks alot, your article was really helpful.

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    • Justin on July 30, 2014 at 4:29 pm

      Hey Katherine, Thanks for the message. Feel free to copy and link whatever you want! Thanks for reading.

  134. Andressa Luar on August 2, 2014 at 4:27 am

    Adorei isso….o ponto 7 foi o melhor…este artigo fez me sentir mais confiante..

    • Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:17 pm

      do you speak portuguese?, I like it’s sound

  135. Sarwar Kethelic on August 5, 2014 at 12:30 pm

    Please provide me your cell no. I'll talk with you for English Practice.
    +01715 223 549

    • Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:14 pm

      it’s dangerous give your cellphone

    • Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:15 pm

      do not do that

  136. Alex Son on August 8, 2014 at 9:59 pm

    That's really true!

  137. J Carlos Fs on August 12, 2014 at 2:02 am

    Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it.

  138. Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:02 pm

    the whole things you tell are useful

  139. Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:02 pm

    the whole things you tell are useful

  140. Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:14 pm

    it’s dangerous give your cellphone

  141. Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:15 pm

    do not do that

  142. Ale on August 28, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    do you speak portuguese?, I like it’s sound

  143. ganesh kumar on September 4, 2014 at 1:32 am

    Thanks buddy, it really boost my confidence level…..

  144. ganesh kumar on September 4, 2014 at 1:32 am

    Thanks buddy, it really boost my confidence level…..

  145. mansi on September 12, 2014 at 4:22 am

    Mansi from India
    thanks, as I have also start learning English. I am not fluent your article help me and boost my confidence level one thing I want to ask you How can I do more practice alone as I stayed in backward area nobody knows English very well. I think surrounding does matter in speaking please help me sir I am waiting for your reply

  146. mansi on September 12, 2014 at 4:22 am

    Mansi from India
    thanks, as I have also start learning English. I am not fluent your article help me and boost my confidence level one thing I want to ask you How can I do more practice alone as I stayed in backward area nobody knows English very well. I think surrounding does matter in speaking please help me sir I am waiting for your reply

  147. vikas on September 23, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    you are amazing in the article. I got rejected in interviews and i was feeling sad about it but your article is very good it is like a booster to a slow person. It created a sense of confidence in me and i am very thankful to you. You are doing a good job keep it going. Hats off 🙂

  148. vikas on September 23, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    you are amazing in the article. I got rejected in interviews and i was feeling sad about it but your article is very good it is like a booster to a slow person. It created a sense of confidence in me and i am very thankful to you. You are doing a good job keep it going. Hats off 🙂

  149. Webert Araújo on October 2, 2014 at 3:49 pm

    Thanks for this article guys! I learned a lot!

  150. Webert Araújo on October 2, 2014 at 3:49 pm

    Thanks for this article guys! I learned a lot!

  151. Endang Sari Tanjung on October 3, 2014 at 8:16 pm

    thanks a lot,it's helping me….
    being frustased coz i can't speak english fluently….

  152. Cao Haminh on October 8, 2014 at 6:43 am

    It is very useful for English Learners

  153. ?ào Thanh on October 8, 2014 at 8:21 am

    Thank a lot.

  154. Vishnudas Fegade on October 11, 2014 at 12:13 pm

    very best knowledge about English learning

  155. Etu Raymond on October 14, 2014 at 6:54 pm

    Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to boost my confidence

  156. Dhanesh rathore on October 15, 2014 at 4:39 am

    Wow! This article just sums everything you need to know for speaking English fluently. During my training with inlingua, these were the first tips given to me.

  157. Name (required) on October 24, 2014 at 9:19 am

    hello friends i want to communicate with others , there is no english people around my premises wat should i do?

  158. Thoi trang hotgirl on November 3, 2014 at 4:31 am

    Thank you guys! Your Manifesto helps me understand the big picture to be successful at learning English. – See more at: http://reallifeglobal.com/7-things-not-to-do-when-speaking-english#sthash.8jOOsaXc.dpuf

  159. yogi on December 5, 2014 at 3:41 am

    Thanks a lot.. Have been learning Russian for past 2 months and you have echoed my teacher. She is excellent and says exactly the same what you have said.. though she may agree with your views grammar as she is hell bent on we learning grammar

  160. Prasad Prakash on December 9, 2014 at 4:15 pm

    thanks a lot guys.

  161. Mana Fujisaka on December 19, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    helpful

  162. Mana Fujisaka on December 19, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    helpful

  163. Mana Fujisaka on December 19, 2014 at 2:22 pm

    helpful

  164. Madhu on December 23, 2014 at 10:01 am

    Its very helpful for me.Thank You

  165. Prabin on December 27, 2014 at 1:45 pm

    your advice is really helpful at these day for me really happy for your advice and my confidence level is also rising up.for best suggestion thanku men

  166. raghav tomar on December 31, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    thanx alot u r increase my confidence

    • Ethan on January 4, 2015 at 6:44 pm

      That’s awesome to hear! Keep at it 🙂

  167. Joey Szomolyai on January 5, 2015 at 10:31 am

    Who the hell wants to learn English? Out of all languages, English? I wish I was born in another country…..

  168. Daniel Ho on January 14, 2015 at 2:08 am

    That is a really instructive article!

    • Ethan on January 14, 2015 at 12:59 pm

      I hope you learned a lot!

  169. Karina Pires on January 23, 2015 at 11:20 pm

    Very nice article 🙂

  170. Jae Ho Lee on January 24, 2015 at 1:49 am

    Absolutely

  171. Tjhai Su Chung on January 24, 2015 at 3:04 am

    I like it..

  172. Boyoung Kim on January 24, 2015 at 11:38 pm

    it's absolutely true and we should keep in mind *^*!

  173. Natalie Tasha on January 27, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks! I'll keep it in mind.

  174. Ludmila Strelnikova on January 27, 2015 at 2:19 pm

    I do thank you for the useful advices. I agree with you that confidence and fluency come from frequent practice. To be honest, sometimes I apologize for my complicated expression when I can't express the idea in clear and simple language.

  175. Aleksandra Do?gij on January 27, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    I think it's because it is a relatively simple language.

  176. asmaa on January 27, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    i really like that. it’s a very great article. thumps up !!!
    thank you

    • Justin on February 4, 2015 at 11:34 am

      Thank you, Asmaa!

  177. Paula Stella Mussauel Yossimi on January 30, 2015 at 2:12 pm

    That's True. And I like it.

  178. Cecep Durahim on February 1, 2015 at 5:43 am

    Thanks for the advice. It's really benefiial for me.

  179. Vèda Papineau on February 4, 2015 at 2:26 am

    Because it is THE universal language.

  180. Hank Wong on February 10, 2015 at 5:26 am

    Thank you

  181. Simone Schiavini on February 17, 2015 at 11:18 am

    I moved in the UK this month,and I'm having totally another problem. People understand me I would say always,but it happens that when someone speaks and get into a long sentence/period I don't get one word,for example for a fast pronunciation,then I lose the point and I must ask to repeat or repeat the last part,and it happened that someone gets bothered by that. It seems to me that seeing I usually speak fast and they understand me,and usually understand normally what they say somehow makes them think they can speak fast and cut some words the way they would do with a native or a perfect speaking person,too bad It takes a while to get used to the accent. I'm not quite sure about what to do in the cases I wrote above,is it so strange?

  182. Ander on February 20, 2015 at 5:12 am

    I am totally agree with the writer. In fact, spanish people we have a master in feeling embarrash when we have to speak the language.
    That’s why I Will advise those who really want to achieve a fluent spoken english to following this rules.

    • Justin on February 20, 2015 at 2:30 pm

      Hey Andar, Thanks for responding! Have a great day.

  183. Seoyoung Kim on March 10, 2015 at 2:09 pm

    Thanks a lot for posting this article. It helps me a lot. 🙂

  184. AR Sundararajan on March 31, 2015 at 7:05 am

    Read, read, read; learning English is firing on all your cylinders 360 degrees (trust your mind TO learn, record, and recall when there is an appropriate cross-reference); there is no short-cut; watch, record, memorize, speak, listen; idiomatic usage and phraseology – this is where it gets tough, and this is the clincher difference between a native and non-native speaker; however, over time you will learn to think in English (it happens spontaneously, you don't have to even work at it). It depends on how creative you are even in your native language; the level of effort and creativity you put into your communication, in any language, marks the difference in quality between one ESL and another ESL. You want your proficiency to match a native speaker's level or you want to achieve a level that is useful for practical purposes. If you are dating a native speaker, then yes it is necessary to master a higher-level proficiency. One good way to imbibe native speakers' quirks is to watch a lot of TV and movies, something like Simpsons, a stellar example of rather facetious American idioms designed to make you laugh; but, do Americans speak like that in everyday life. I don't know; I have no clue; I never been on a flight that crossed the Indian air zone; I don't even have a passport. A true inspiration will be Molly Bloom's soliloquy. Now, that's word play.

  185. Dhanesh Rathore on March 31, 2015 at 12:08 pm

    The first point is so much more important. Another article which would help the readers to ease up this fear is at inlinguanewdelhidotcom : how to speak english fluently.
    http://www.inlinguanewdelhi.com/speak-english-fluently/

  186. Ana on April 9, 2015 at 3:22 pm

    Great advice! I saw you wrote this a while ago, but I’m really glad I came across it today of all days! I have a group of lower intermediate adult students who were talking about how discouraged they have been feeling – intermediate plateau and all, you know – I’m going to share this with them and I’m sure it’l give them a much needed confidence boost!

  187. Ugo on April 14, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    It’s a excellent topic. I believe that English learning, such as any learning process, is a long journey. Each moment is a good moment to learn more about some konwlegde. You grow up as a person and become to be able to see new ways in your life.

    Congrats.

  188. Jaime Mercado on April 17, 2015 at 10:26 am

    Thank FOR yours comentas , I enjoy The articule about the 7 mistake and I think that my confidence is better now , this is a New time for to practice my english no matter What think everybody , only is important to me to learn english

  189. Melonie Dawn Riggs on April 21, 2015 at 1:13 pm

    I had a bad childhood, and parents never taught me things or took me anywhere.Men look at me want to go out, But after hearing me talk with bad grammar they change there mind.I dont talk in front of people ashamed of way I am.People would tell me how bad I talk and think that makes you stupid.Proper grammar means so much to a person that dont have it, that others take for granted

  190. Angela Nordin on April 25, 2015 at 6:34 pm

    It´s an important tool to lose the fear and to improve your knowledges. Thanks a lot!

  191. Kundan Singh Rajput on May 7, 2015 at 1:26 pm

    wow it was very much inspirational for non english speaker. I specially thank you for such insight to share………i actually not proficient in speaking and even in writing but making my best efforts to be a good one

  192. Suzy1502 on May 23, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    Thanks for sharing..but u know what..the foreigners usually dont laugh at people who doesnt know english or not fluent in english..but like in my country Malaysia, those Malaysians who think they’re very good in English will always laugh to the local people who doesnt know English..like myself,I am not confident speaking in English..afraid that people will laugh at me.. (-_-‘)

  193. Suzy1502 on May 23, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    Thanks for sharing..but u know what..the foreigners usually dont laugh at people who doesnt know english or not fluent in english..but like in my country Malaysia, those Malaysians who think they’re very good in English will always laugh to the local people who doesnt know English..like myself,I am not confident speaking in English..afraid that people will laugh at me.. (-_-‘)

  194. Suva Kar senapati on July 9, 2015 at 9:12 am

    I love who write this article, and it gives confident me also

  195. Suva Kar senapati on July 9, 2015 at 9:12 am

    I love who write this article, and it gives confident me also

  196. Suva Kar senapati on July 9, 2015 at 9:14 am

    I love Josh

  197. Suva Kar senapati on July 9, 2015 at 9:14 am

    I love Josh

  198. Tamilarasan.p on July 23, 2015 at 12:22 pm

    it was super..I am inspired and hereafter whatever happens I am going to speak English without fear.

  199. Tamil on July 23, 2015 at 12:22 pm

    it was super..I am inspired and hereafter whatever happens I am going to speak English without fear.

  200. Erick Moreno on August 13, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    it´s a really great article, thanks a lot for share you knowledge whit us, I’ll try to apply this seven advices!

  201. Erick Moreno on August 13, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    it´s a really great article, thanks a lot for share you knowledge whit us, I’ll try to apply this seven advices!

  202. Hiro Hinds Paul on August 19, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    i have just discoverd that i´ve seven problems.

  203. Hiro Hinds Paul on August 19, 2015 at 4:07 pm

    i have just discoverd that i´ve seven problems.

  204. Balachari Korrapati on August 21, 2015 at 5:31 am

    Now I am in a soft skills training session. But I noticed that I can’t talk English fluently . I was before confident that I speak English fluently. but it has came down.

  205. Balachari Korrapati on August 21, 2015 at 5:31 am

    Now I am in a soft skills training session. But I noticed that I can’t talk English fluently . I was before confident that I speak English fluently. but it has came down.

  206. Valdelino Lourenço on September 1, 2015 at 1:31 pm

    Excellent!

  207. Valdelino Lourenço on September 1, 2015 at 1:31 pm

    Excellent!

  208. Native English Skype Teacher on September 24, 2015 at 6:22 am

    Fantastic article! I completely agree with all points here. I think as English teachers, we have to focus on the technical side of English, of course, such as the grammar rules and pronunciation; but second to that, and just as important, we must raise the student’s confidence level as much as possible.

    Confidence is a HUGE part of speaking a second language, so please students, paste a BIG smile on your face, take a deep breath and simply speak…you’ll be so glad you did 🙂

  209. Native English Skype Teacher on September 24, 2015 at 6:22 am

    Fantastic article! I completely agree with all points here. I think as English teachers, we have to focus on the technical side of English, of course, such as the grammar rules and pronunciation; but second to that, and just as important, we must raise the student’s confidence level as much as possible.

    Confidence is a HUGE part of speaking a second language, so please students, paste a BIG smile on your face, take a deep breath and simply speak…you’ll be so glad you did 🙂

  210. Sofia Chuang on September 26, 2015 at 10:43 am

    The same way to others !

  211. Sofia Chuang on September 26, 2015 at 10:43 am

    The same way to others !

  212. Omri Bogu on October 28, 2015 at 1:42 pm

    Ma homie! i know that i have a good English but sometimes i feel like i have bad English. The question is how am i gonna deal with this.

  213. Omri Bogu on October 28, 2015 at 1:42 pm

    Ma homie! i know that i have a good English but sometimes i feel like i have bad English. The question is how am i gonna deal with this.

  214. Efernal Death on November 18, 2015 at 12:19 am

    Ahh yes the English Language.. There is many different regional err forms of English. Where I live I had to learn how to understand Spanish English speakers, New Jersey, New York, PA Dutch, South Eastern PA. I do understand Southern United states and I grew up in Western PA wich is kinda sorta like Southern United States only with a bit of cursing thrown in for the non bible thumpers you get to talk to. Be aware that the books (yeas there are many) for slang words used by Native English speakers is huge. Sometime even a fluent English speaker might not know the correct term but they will know at least 2-3 different slang terms to describe whatever it is they are trying to talk about. And some of those terms can vary every 10 miles or every other town you come across.

    Even when typing on a forum or playing an MMO game, Don’t be afraid to misspell words or word things that might look odd to the fluent English speaker. One thing to remember when reading anything and this is especially true is that you can misspell every single word and as long as you have the first and last letter in every word right the English speaking person will be able to read it unless they are just starting to learn how to read themselves. Don’t get embarrassed about anything when speaking. Talking is the best way to learn the language.

  215. Efernal Death on November 18, 2015 at 12:19 am

    Ahh yes the English Language.. There is many different regional err forms of English. Where I live I had to learn how to understand Spanish English speakers, New Jersey, New York, PA Dutch, South Eastern PA. I do understand Southern United states and I grew up in Western PA wich is kinda sorta like Southern United States only with a bit of cursing thrown in for the non bible thumpers you get to talk to. Be aware that the books (yeas there are many) for slang words used by Native English speakers is huge. Sometime even a fluent English speaker might not know the correct term but they will know at least 2-3 different slang terms to describe whatever it is they are trying to talk about. And some of those terms can vary every 10 miles or every other town you come across.

    Even when typing on a forum or playing an MMO game, Don’t be afraid to misspell words or word things that might look odd to the fluent English speaker. One thing to remember when reading anything and this is especially true is that you can misspell every single word and as long as you have the first and last letter in every word right the English speaking person will be able to read it unless they are just starting to learn how to read themselves. Don’t get embarrassed about anything when speaking. Talking is the best way to learn the language.

  216. Davi A. Fernandes on January 10, 2016 at 10:58 am

    Muito legais essas instruções para melhor aproveitamento. Já errei bastante, mas acredito que assim consigo aprender. (Portuguese Brazil)

    Very cool, these instructions to better use, learn. Already I messed up enough, but I believe so I can learn.

  217. Davi A. Fernandes on January 10, 2016 at 10:58 am

    Muito legais essas instruções para melhor aproveitamento. Já errei bastante, mas acredito que assim consigo aprender. (Portuguese Brazil)

    Very cool, these instructions to better use, learn. Already I messed up enough, but I believe so I can learn.

  218. phani kk bahadhur on February 4, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    Real truth you said.
    if you feeling shy at the time speaking English do this Practice yourself in front of mirror.

  219. phani kk bahadhur on February 4, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    Real truth you said.
    if you feeling shy at the time speaking English do this Practice yourself in front of mirror.

  220. Fauziah Ajirun on February 10, 2016 at 11:56 pm

    This articles help me a lot.its help encourage me to learn and speak english better then before…no matter i am good or bad in that spoken…as a learner….i don’t care either other person will judge me as someone who doesn’t know to converse in english as well as they are…as long as i can communicate with other and find that they are understand me…its better then i just shut my mouth not talking to and afraid of other person may laugh at me in my english languages….thanks to the person who post this articles…i feel great in my learning process in english…thank you so much…i really appreciate it…

  221. Fauziah Ajirun on February 10, 2016 at 11:56 pm

    This articles help me a lot.its help encourage me to learn and speak english better then before…no matter i am good or bad in that spoken…as a learner….i don’t care either other person will judge me as someone who doesn’t know to converse in english as well as they are…as long as i can communicate with other and find that they are understand me…its better then i just shut my mouth not talking to and afraid of other person may laugh at me in my english languages….thanks to the person who post this articles…i feel great in my learning process in english…thank you so much…i really appreciate it…

  222. MOHamed on February 11, 2016 at 7:51 am

    that is a very helpful and great article i think ,,thank you very much Mr. josh

  223. MOHamed on February 11, 2016 at 7:51 am

    that is a very helpful and great article i think ,,thank you very much Mr. josh

  224. VBB on February 12, 2016 at 1:43 pm

    A Great article, a real truth!

  225. VBB on February 12, 2016 at 1:43 pm

    A Great article, a real truth!

  226. Henrique Giacomeli on February 20, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    I want to compliment the authors for this amazing article. I 100% agree with this 7 rules about speaking english, and it gave me encouragement to take next step and speak english whatever my level of fluency and good or bad pronunciation my english are!

    • Real Life English on March 18, 2016 at 10:47 am

      Thanks Henrique for your nice comment and support. Keep up the great work! Maybe we’ll video chat on http://www.RealLifeGlobal.com one of these days.

      Cheers!

      Justin

      • Dika Satriya Des on October 23, 2016 at 1:02 pm

        oke i have same point with you. this 7 things make me feel better. and no need to shy when u learn to speak english,, just let it flow like a river when time comes u will see the ocean

  227. Henrique Giacomeli on February 20, 2016 at 12:10 pm

    I want to compliment the authors for this amazing article. I 100% agree with this 7 rules about speaking english, and it gave me encouragement to take next step and speak english whatever my level of fluency and good or bad pronunciation my english are!

    • RealLife on March 18, 2016 at 10:47 am

      Thanks Henrique for your nice comment and support. Keep up the great work! Maybe we’ll video chat on http://www.RealLifeGlobal.com one of these days.

      Cheers!

      Justin

  228. Angelo on March 23, 2016 at 5:40 pm

    Great!

  229. Angelo on March 23, 2016 at 5:40 pm

    Great!

  230. Nebay Debesay on April 23, 2016 at 6:31 pm

    Thank you, it's help a lot, I am really glad I found this site. I just wanted thank you .

  231. no confident on May 29, 2016 at 10:39 am

    helps me a lot but i just cannot encourage myself to speak, especially when english is my second language

  232. no confident on May 29, 2016 at 10:39 am

    helps me a lot but i just cannot encourage myself to speak, especially when english is my second language

  233. rebecca on July 9, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    thanks a lot ! The article really helps me . i really want to study abroad but my english still bad, I’m trying very hard but my vocabularies hard to improve. But with this article,its really fire me lots.

    • Justin Murray on July 11, 2016 at 12:10 pm

      Hey Rebecca, I’m glad this articule fires you UP. Thanks for reading and commenting!

  234. rebecca on July 9, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    thanks a lot ! The article really helps me . i really want to study abroad but my english still bad, I’m trying very hard but my vocabularies hard to improve. But with this article,its really fire me lots.

    • Justin Murray on July 11, 2016 at 12:10 pm

      Hey Rebecca, I’m glad this articule fires you UP. Thanks for reading and commenting!

  235. Dika Satriya Des on October 23, 2016 at 1:03 pm

    oke i have same point with you. this 7 things make me feel better. and no need to shy when u learn to speak english,, just let it flow like a river when time comes u will see the oceans

    • Shakir Sahaba on June 6, 2017 at 8:22 am

      #Dika yes i also agree because Some places still Peoples are Shying to speak English

  236. oliver on November 19, 2016 at 11:09 am

    THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!I was very sickI of trying to speak English because everytime I tried I just stucked.I had no motivation,no confidence.I am a Sri Lankan and just 16 years old.I travelled to many countries with my family and I got the chance to speak with those people.But I intentionally avoided them because I was shy to speak.However finally I read this article and I have been motivated like I never was.Once again THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

    • Justin Murray on November 23, 2016 at 6:31 pm

      Hey Oliver, Great to hear that it was useful. Yeah, just go out and do it, and remember that we’re here for you! Godspeed!

  237. christian. on November 27, 2016 at 9:47 pm

    Hi, where i can find the link por talk with another persons in english like de article “Are you learning english wrong” said. thanks.

  238. Tara on January 24, 2017 at 9:18 am

    Hi
    Thank you for sharing these article, i found at all the point I do opposed what i read in this article which its not good, i like to share my story so might find some help to feel confided in my live, I live in London around six years still i cant find my self confident to do so many thing because of my language, even I studied AAT and finished all the 4 level which its a good grade and I work for a small company as a bookkeeper about 2 years, any person have level 4 AAT working as accountant assistant but i can not see myself to apply for a new job and better salary because of lake in confidence, i would like to apply for a new job but when i think about language i will change my mind to not do it.

    Many thanks for reading my story and appropriate any advice

    • RealLife on January 24, 2017 at 3:08 pm

      Hey Tara, Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts and experience. I would say it’s really important to get out and speak as much as possible. Also, your mindset is important. We have many articles and materials talking about this, but here’s one podcast — http://reallifeglobal.com/growth-mindset/
      Basically, just be okay with your mistakes, break through your main psychological barriers, and using your English more. I hope that helps!

  239. Shahrukh on February 4, 2017 at 3:28 am

    Hi! I would like to say thanks to you. I was a vernacular medium and i kept on learning English. When I had joined my new office that time i have learned two things personally. I was used to disgraced by Colleagues just because my English was not perfect! Instead of teaching me they started making fun of me after that gradually I used to work on my English Language. As they dont know that I was studying in Vernacular medium in my School but now i can communicate better than earlier. Thanks to God!

    • RealLife on February 6, 2017 at 3:11 pm

      Hey Shahrukh, Sorry to hear about your unfortunate story. Keep up the good work with your English though. You’ll get there soon enough!

  240. RealLife on February 6, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    Hey El- Liez, I understand your difficulty. That happens a lot, but you can improve your emotional response, your strategies to communicate better, and over time improve your English. Just keep following this web site!

  241. Navjeet on April 21, 2017 at 4:51 am

    First of all,i would like to thank you for providing me such a wonderful article.During my english speaking learning process,i had demoralized due to
    lack of confidence.i am good at writing process but as the speaking process I felt too embarrassed in front of the people.Due to your article,i gotta know that was happened because I didn’t have a enough confidence.Thank You For Admirring Me and help me to achieve my goal.

    • Justin Murray on April 21, 2017 at 11:51 am

      Hey Navjeet, Great to hear that the article helped. It’s just a question of practice, staying relaxed, and not taking yourself so seriously. It gets easier with time too. Stay in touch!

  242. dthr on May 1, 2017 at 6:29 am

    I’ve been learning english for a few years now, but whenever I meet someone who speaks fluent english or native speaker, I get nervous and try to speak as little as possible to hide my inadequacy.

  243. mkantem on May 13, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    This helps a lot you cannot imagine how much. Hours spent working on the language, the struggle … you name it .as far as I am concerned your article made me realize that I can actually be proud of what I have been doing.

    • Justin Murray on May 20, 2017 at 1:10 pm

      Aww yeah mKantem! You hit the nail on the head.

  244. KENNY ROGERS on May 20, 2017 at 8:01 am

    I will always thank those guys that dedicate some moment of their lives to help others! I’m working on English for some years but I still not feel confident when I have to talk to Natives Speakers and your article let me learn some interesting things to reduce my fear. God bless ya!

    • Justin Murray on May 20, 2017 at 1:10 pm

      Aww yeah, Kenny! We really appreciate your nice comment.

  245. gladis2774 on May 21, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Thanks for your word. It mean a lot to me.

  246. Jesse Grillo on July 22, 2017 at 8:06 am

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